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Conflict Management Style Self-Assessment

This questionnaire helps you identify your typical ways of handling conflict in everyday academic and social situations. Items are written as practical scenarios so that you respond according to your natural behaviour, not what looks correct. The styles are broadly based on the Dual-Concern model: Competing, Accommodating, Avoiding, Compromising, and Collaborating.

Instructions:

• Answer every question based on what you usually do, especially under pressure or stress.
• There are no right or wrong answers. Different situations may require different styles.
• After submitting, you will see your scores for the five conflict styles and brief interpretations.
• You can then download a PDF report with your name and a verification code for assignment submission.

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Questionnaire (Choose the option that is closest to what you usually do)

1. In a group project, two members strongly disagree about how to proceed. Your first reaction is to:
Firmly argue for the plan you believe is best and push to move forward
Bring both sides together and explore a solution that satisfies everyone
Step back and let them sort it out without getting involved
Support the person who seems more upset so that tension reduces
Suggest that each side give up something so work can continue

2. When a classmate submits poor-quality work as part of your joint assignment, you usually:
Tell them directly that their work is not acceptable and insist on changes
Edit it yourself silently and avoid confrontation
Accept the work as it is, so they do not feel hurt
Request only a few changes so both of you share the effort
Sit with them, discuss expectations, and improve the work together

3. A friend speaks to you rudely in front of others. Your most likely response is to:
Say nothing at that moment and simply withdraw
Confront them immediately and strongly defend your self-respect
Ignore it, assuming they must be stressed, and behave normally
Mention it briefly later and ask for a simple apology so you can move on
Choose a calm time later to explain how you felt and understand their side

4. When there is a heated debate in class and the teacher asks for a final decision, you usually:
Present your idea confidently and push it as the final choice
Prefer that someone else decides so that you can avoid the argument
Recommend a middle option that includes parts of different ideas
Encourage one more round of discussion to reach a well-thought-out solution
Support the option that most classmates seem to prefer

5. A hostel roommate regularly leaves the room untidy. Over time, you tend to:
Adjust yourself and quietly manage the cleanliness on your own
Ignore the mess and try not to think about it
Clearly demand that they follow your standards of cleanliness
Suggest a simple rule where both of you take turns cleaning
Sit together to discuss habits and mutually design a workable system

6. When a junior student disagrees with your suggestion during club work, you tend to:
Insist that your plan is better because of your experience
Invite them to explain their idea fully and explore the best combined approach
Allow their idea to be implemented even if you doubt its success
Leave the decision to others and stay neutral
Ask both sides to adjust parts of their ideas to form a quick solution

7. If you and a friend want to use the same limited resource (e.g., laptop, lab equipment) at the same time, you usually:
Propose to divide the time equally or rotate the usage
Let them use it and manage your work later
Claim your turn strongly because you feel your need is more urgent
Decide to postpone your own work and not raise the issue
Discuss both of your deadlines and design a schedule that works best for both

8. During a family disagreement about your career choice, your typical pattern is to:
Accept the family’s preference to maintain peace
Strongly defend your own decision, even if it upsets others
Avoid the topic and change the subject whenever it comes up
Negotiate a partial agreement (e.g., timing, alternative path)
Have open discussions to find a solution that respects both your goals and their concerns

9. When there is a misunderstanding in a WhatsApp group, you tend to:
Stay silent and hope the issue settles on its own
Reply strongly to prove your point is correct
Apologise quickly, even if you are not fully at fault
Suggest a quick adjustment so everyone can move forward
Clarify calmly, ask others’ perspectives, and try to repair the group understanding

10. A classmate repeatedly comes late to a group meeting. Over time, you:
Warn them clearly that their behaviour is not acceptable
Say nothing and simply adjust the meeting time in your mind
Make excuses for them and adjust your expectations
Request that they be punctual on some days and you adjust on others
Talk to them privately to understand reasons and jointly plan a realistic timing

11. When you and your lab partner differ on how to present results, you are most likely to:
Merge both ideas so each of you gets part of what you want
Analyse both options together and create a new, improved version
Push strongly for your version because you trust it more
Agree to their way so that work finishes smoothly
Avoid the discussion and let them decide whatever they like

12. If an argument starts turning very emotional and loud, you generally:
Prefer to withdraw completely from the situation
Continue asserting your view strongly despite the emotions
Try to calm others by accepting their opinion
Offer a halfway solution to quickly reduce the intensity
Suggest a break and return later to discuss calmly and logically

13. When a teacher gives feedback you feel is unfair, you:
Decide not to say anything and accept the result
Challenge the feedback firmly and defend your work
Accept the feedback fully, assuming the teacher must be right
Request a small adjustment rather than a full review
Politely ask for a meeting to understand the feedback and present your side

14. When you notice tension between two friends, your approach is usually to:
Stay out of it and let them handle their own issues
Take a clear side and argue strongly for the person you support
Support whichever friend seems more emotionally hurt
Encourage both to find a simple agreement and move on
Help them talk openly so the real issue can be resolved

15. When time is very limited, and a decision must be taken quickly, you tend to:
Decide firmly and expect others to follow
Suggest a quick middle option that is “good enough” for now
Prefer that someone else decides in such rushed situations
Support the option that others seem to favour
Ask at least a few key people for input before concluding

Your Conflict Management Style Profile

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Dominant Conflict Style(s)

Scores

Note for Students (Assignment Use):
After downloading and printing your PDF report, write a short paragraph in your own words explaining whether these conflict style results correctly describe how you actually handle conflicts or not, with at least one real example. Attach the handwritten paragraph with the printed report for submission.

Disclaimer: This conflict management self-assessment is for educational purposes and is broadly inspired by the dual-concern model and Thomas–Kilmann conflict styles. It is not an official or clinical diagnostic instrument.

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